So I’ve been thinking a ton of what I wanted to highlight. In the last few days of pain, violence, and horrendous treatment of people overseas, I found myself wanting to be reflective but not wanting to take away from serious, real issues going on. I know an old quote I have always loved- 2 actually:

-Mother Theresa- “We cannot do great things. We can only do small things with great love.”

-Mr. Rogers- “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.”

My heart goes out to anyone with family overseas, anyone who is struggling, and anyone who feels at a loss. Violence can make utter defeat. Please don’t give up on people. In the darkness, shines the light. Keep being good to another. You are AMAZING at what you are doing and SO enough to those around you.

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My initial thing before the horrible events in treating people- especially innocent ones was the back & forth emotions in dealing with kids: grateful but exhausted, inpatient then relieved, sad then silly. It changes fast & it keeps us grounded. Mood is SO back & forth and it’s hard to keep our own emotions in check to model for our little ones when they are struggling.

2nd edition of- WHY THE F AREN'T PEOPLE TALKING ABOUT THIS? SOUR PATCH. This could be the screaming to not want rain gear in the rain. This could then be the hysterical crying for the umbrella & warmer clothes after the fight existed to contradict the first outburst. The 20 minute ordeal to leave the house to then have both kids poop & miss the appointment you were leaving for. But then a yell with pride of the shape of the poop where everyone claps for the accomplishment.

This could be the fight to encourage a snack to then 2 minutes later- be screaming for food and to be held. This could be wacking you in the face after you asked to put something down (thinking you broke your nose) but then utter fall into you, deep, warm hug to make it all dissipate. The complete meltdowns to not go to sleep- to play shadows with a flashlight, but then sweet snuggles a few minutes later and snoring.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

These- especially in the last few days are NOT real problems. But I’m bringing them up to have some recognition of the constant up & downs we endure throughout the day. If we take it personally- on fumes with low sleep or food in our bellies, we are bound to be less patient. I prayed recently for help & grace to just work on separating, breathing, getting a snack, or seeing that they need our help to help them. Testing the waters with “NO”, or “I do!!!” is a test of independence and exploration.
 

A bootcamp class wayyy before married life or kiddos made me think earlier of reframing my mindset. Instead of – I have to do this, (meal, work thing, task, tending to a meltdown)- it’s work but TRULY changes perspective…. I GET TO.

I get to be with the meltdown SOUR PATCH child who needs to sleep who then snuggles me like a koala bear. I get to scoop them up for a hug when they fall after speed running too fast because they trust my hug will help them. We are LUCKY for the air we breathe.

Let’s be good to ourselves & have some grace when we struggle. At the end of the day, I pray to be happy & healthy. I feel it’s truly the most important thing.
 
Our littles are SOUR PATCHES. We are too- and as females, get our lovely hormones to thank for the extra times we need a snickers bar or have our lady friend to help.

Get some rest when you can, forget the laundry piles for the night, & do something good for yourselves. You deserve that & try to think… I GET to do something rather than I have to.

*I’ll say it again-

It can always be worse. But it can always be better too. I put some resources up & would love to expand. If you have a small business & want some support, PLEASE let me know.

Have a wonderful weekend.

We rise by lifting others.

LOVE & LIGHT BABY

Kristen

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"Speak the truth- even if your voice shakes."