Why the F?
Here we go...
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I wanted to say a quick hi. I've had a flood of emotions last few days. First note of- WHY THE F AREN'T PEOPLE TALKING ABOUT THIS?--Grieving while parenting. It was my cousin's anniversary (I hate that word for events that are not glorious). I was sad. I wanted to be more emotional, but tended to the kids with every day instances of- pooping, snacks, screaming about getting clothes on, building pillow forts, dinosaur roaring- all the good stuff. In the scheme of the obvious- NOT a real problem at all.
It almost made me frustrated to not have my own time with space to reflect (but then again- when does that happen?) They scream Maaaaa, Maaaa whenever I am not in front of them- even when I'm trying to pee in silence.
***Anyway, almost the end of the day, I went out late. With resistance to leave the house & almost just turning around in my driveway, we got out as the clown car and made it. I got amazing Greek food, went for a walk with the boys, & went to the water. This is something I used to do whenever would need to reboot and just settle from the world.
One of the best parts- We said hi to the ducks & yelled hello to the moon.💙
It felt so refreshing. What we do to take care of ourselves is a model for the tiny, observing humans.
If you are a giver as a parent, in your work- therapist, nurse, helper, whatever…it is CRUCIAL to take care of you & so, SO deserved. GO OUTSIDE. YOU WILL BE SO HAPPY TO STOP FROM ALL THE THINGS, CLEANING ATTEMPTS, TO-DO LISTS, ETC.
At the end of the day- LOVE UP on your people, your dogs, your humans across the board.
I found myself being hard on myself, short on patience, and on edge. As a therapist, I can give education to others all the time. But for myself, reflecting in my own grief journey & that as a mother- I struggled to be present and eat up the good moments. Life changes quickly. Let's try to be good to ourselves. We don't need agita.
*Below is a few minute youtube clip for anyone interested. I was introduced back in training years back & never forgotten it. It's just about watching our tone, watching how we react to someone in need. It's light & easy to relate to.
https://youtu.be/1Evwgu369Jw?si=0tm-E5CmtTkffPUa
It can always be worse. But it can always be better too. I know I'm going to try to be more intentional this week- better with my time, my efforts, and trying to do more of what builds me up.
*Lastly attached are some silly pics- one of a legit meme that I see my boys doing if I left the room briefly & surprised by silence. The others are of the boys rocking pajamas as they do the majority of the time when they aren't hanging with their bellies out. (LOVE ME SOME CUTE BELLIES THO)
*I'm still working at resources/recommendations page. Please let me know if someone you know- or yourself needs a pick me up. It's the start of suicide prevention month. People need people. Seasons changing can be hard too. Mail can be magic guys. I'd love to send some love to someone needing a little extra this time of year.
Have a wonderful week & please reach out for anything you may need or to bounce my way. Thank you for your time!
We rise by lifting others.
LOVE & LIGHT BABY
Kristen
845-548-1583
"Speak the truth- even if your voice shakes."
